It's Over

It’s done.

I am legally divorced and changed back to my maiden name.

My girlfriends have always said that at least I married into a cool name. It’s a pretty prominent name in the Twin City restaurant scene and I was always able to pull a few strings when it came to making reservations...........

The price we pay, huh?

Tears but no regrets.

Currently, it is hard to believe it is over. The outcome was good. I got the house and sole custody of the boys.

No visitation schedule as Dad really hasn’t seen nor taken the kids in over a year.


Child support is going to help but after all the paper work is complete and filed, it may take up to 4 months for me to start collecting – and I cannot go back to when he left for back child support.

Now the work begins. Imagine all the things I need to do for my name change. I’m sure it will take awhile, as there are things that will be overlooked.

I stepped back into my house and need to remember the things that happened here. I look at the bedroom door that I just fixed – remembering him kicking it in as me and the boys were upstairs "hiding" to get away from his temper. Some spots in the kitchen that I often wonder if it’s blood or spaghetti sauce on parts of the ceiling and walls that I didn’t see to clean up, being barricaded out of the house, sleeping in the car and then knocking on the door the next morning only for him to think I was out all night.......

I have to put those memories to rest. I need to focus on the life that lay ahead of me. Things won’t be any different, as we have been leading a life without a father and husband for over a year now.

I never thought I'd get divorced. I meant that business about taking my husband for the rest of my days. When I realized, though, that my days would be fewer if I stayed married to a man who couldn't quit drinking, I was able to break my promise.

I'm sad about it, but I'm not sorry about it.

Here’s to a new life.