Monday, March 30, 2009

Itchy and Scratchy

There is the old wives tale about an itchy right palm means that you will receive money. An itchy left palm means you will have to give money.

Whenever my left palm itches, soon to follow will be some type of financial gain. (Someone did tell me it is opposite for women!)

I’m not one to believe in this type of stuff, but have come to question this theory, as it seems to be very accurate with me.

Last Thursday and Friday, my left palm had been itchy. I shook it off as dry skin even though I am constantly putting lotion on.

I get my mail on Saturday morning, and what do I receive? It’s a bonus check from work for 2008! I didn’t know if I would be getting one due to the financial market this past year.

It must be a onetime thing, though. I bought a lottery ticket for Saturday night and didn’t even match one number.

Have a great week!

Friday, March 27, 2009

It's Over

It’s done.

I am legally divorced and changed back to my maiden name.

My girlfriends have always said that at least I married into a cool name. It’s a pretty prominent name in the Twin City restaurant scene and I was always able to pull a few strings when it came to making reservations...........

The price we pay, huh?

Tears but no regrets.

Currently, it is hard to believe it is over. The outcome was good. I got the house and sole custody of the boys.

No visitation schedule as Dad really hasn’t seen nor taken the kids in over a year.

Child support is going to help but after all the paper work is complete and filed, it may take up to 4 months for me to start collecting – and I cannot go back to when he left for back child support.

Now the work begins. Imagine all the things I need to do for my name change. I’m sure it will take awhile, as there are things that will be overlooked.

I stepped back into my house and need to remember the things that happened here. I look at the bedroom door that I just fixed – remembering him kicking it in as me and the boys were upstairs "hiding" to get away from his temper. Some spots in the kitchen that I often wonder if it’s blood or spaghetti sauce on parts of the ceiling and walls that I didn’t see to clean up, being barricaded out of the house, sleeping in the car and then knocking on the door the next morning only for him to think I was out all night.......

I have to put those memories to rest. I need to focus on the life that lay ahead of me. Things won’t be any different, as we have been leading a life without a father and husband for over a year now.

I never thought I'd get divorced. I meant that business about taking my husband for the rest of my days. When I realized, though, that my days would be fewer if I stayed married to a man who couldn't quit drinking, I was able to break my promise.

I'm sad about it, but I'm not sorry about it.

Here’s to a new life.

Thursday, March 26, 2009

Don't Worry, Be Happy

Lately I haven’t been myself. The last few days I have been feeling really down. I know there are a lot of factors involved that are constantly on my mind.

I am still unemployed. I miss the structure and adult camaraderie of the workday....and of course, a paycheck!

The weather sucks. I do take my dog out everyday, but when it is raining and snowing it isn’t as enjoyable as taking a nice long walk on a warm sunny day.
I’ve also forgotten how messy Spring can be with a four legged pooch. Every time he goes outside, he is dragging mud into my house.

And tomorrow might be it – I’m going to court at 10:30 and our divorce probably will be finalized.
I can’t say I have any regrets, other than getting laid off, this past year has been really good.
At first, I was thinking tomorrow night I should go out and celebrate. But the more I think about it, I don’t feel it is too appropriate when it comes to my children. It has drastically changed their lives and divorce isn’t something to "celebrate."
I probably won’t want to spend the night at home, so dinner and a movie with my two little guys might be in order.

I’ll post more tomorrow after our court appearance.

Wish me luck!

Wednesday, March 11, 2009

SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder)

In my previous entry, Anneal made this comment:

"Everything here (it seems) just SUCKS! The weather is particularly bugging Me. I won't even mention the sports teams we are stuck with. Yes..vacation withdrawal."

When I first read it I thought the guy was off the deep end. But when I wake up to 25 degrees BELOW ZERO this morning, I'm starting to get the same attitude.

Spring break is in 2 1/2 weeks. I know I'm unemployed and not receiving much for unemployment, but man, Mexico sure sounds good right now.................

Saturday, March 7, 2009

Saturday Ramblings....

I'm feeling much better, thank you very much!

Me and my youngest are heading out to buy tickets to the Twin's season opener, the Walker Art Center, then to Sebastian Joe's for ice cream.

We will then follow up the evening with dinner (probably McDonald's) and a movie.

I hope everyone is enjoying the wonderful weekend!

Friday, March 6, 2009


I'm stocked for tonight. A bottle of vodka, orange juice, alka seltzer cold, Sudafed, Nyquil, Kleenex........yeah, I have an awful headcold.

My oldest son leaves tonight for a "technology camp" and won't be home until Sunday. I wanted to plan something special with my youngest this weekend as it is just me and him. I need to get rid of this cold!

My oldest's scout troop plans an activity one weekend a month. I am grateful for this - not to get "rid" of him, but for the two kids to be apart from each other for a while.

They are fantastic kids but have a tendancy to fight, argue, bicker, and annoy each other as soon as they get home from school.

I have asked Dad to take the kids separately from time to time, but hell, he never wants to see either of them.

I told their father last night at least the kids are in scouts and that is where they are getting their adult male role model....and I am grateful to the guys that are in charge of scouts. Fantastic and patient!

Anyway, no set plans for this weekend. My youngest is the "artsy" one so may have to check out the art museums as we haven't been there since hockey started. Of course, while we are in the neighborhood, we always have to go to Sebastian Joe's Ice Cream...our favorite little ice cream shop!

Hope everyone has a fantastic weekend!

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Text Message Relationship

I've been having a "relationship" where most of the communication has been by texting. We've known each other quite a long time but I have decided that we never saw much of each other because 1. He doesn't like my dog and 2. He isn't into children....or at least my boys.

I guess I should have known from the get go that it wouldn't work. The times he has been invited over for dinner, he never shows. Even though he is an avid hockey fan, he has never seen my boys play, nor joined us going to a high school game. I know it's not the same as the Minnesota Wild, but still..........

He was suppose to come over last night and watch the hockey game with me. It was a late game and he should have arrived around 9:00. The phone started ringing around 1:30 this morning. So much for him.

I sent him a text this morning to stop calling and texting me. It seemed an appropriate way to end things - it would seem strange to do it any other way.

Monday, March 2, 2009

Now What Am I Going To Do?

Hockey season is officially over. My oldest lost their playoff game Friday night and my youngest had his last tournament that ended yesterday.

Raising two hockey players hasn't been easy. The only day we had off in December was Christmas day. In January, it was January 14th......

Most people ask me, "aren't you happy when hockey will be over?" My answer is no. It's fun being around the kids and their families. It keeps us busy during the winter months. And honestly, what else would we do?

Thank goodness baseball signup is on March 5th.

.....And yes, I live vicariously through my children - it keeps me out of trouble ; )

Sunday, March 1, 2009

I Am A Spoon

You are a well rounded, balanced person.

You are friendly and welcoming. You get along with everyone. You are easy going and laid back.

You don't have any hang ups. Non judgmental and accepting, you are a comfort to people around you.

It may be boring, but I have to agree.........